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Futures Planning for Families Supporting Adults with Life-Long Disabilities

by Theresa M. Varnet

As a parent of a 42-year-old daughter challenged with intellectual disabilities, I used to lie awake at night worrying about who is going to look after Jennifer when my husband and I die. Parents often worry about unknowns such as where their adult child with life-long disabilities will live; who will advocate for their child; and what kind of vocational, recreation, residential and support services will their child need and receive. Parents will gain great peace of mind if they take the time to plan for their child's future while they still have the health, time and energy to do so.

Planning is more than just having a will and perhaps a special needs trust in place. It is working with the agencies within the community where the family anticipates the adult child will be living when the parent(s) die to ensure that proper supports are in place. This type of planning often requires the involvement of significant others, including siblings, other family members, family friends, and professionals such a financial planner, attorney, and social worker.

Within the so-called typical population, few parents plan for their own aging or discuss issues related to aging with their adult children. It is therefore no surprise that so few families supporting adults with life-long disabilities have had meaningful discussions concerning viable long-term plans for their son or daughter who will need lifetime supports. Aging parents owe it to themselves, to their typical adult children, and especially to the adult child with life-long disabilities to begin the process of making plans that address the long-term care needs for themselves as they age as well as for the family member in need of long-term supports.


Planning as an Ongoing Process

While opening a dialogue with other family members about long-term care plans is important, it is impossible to resolve this issue in a single talk. Planning for one's old age and the future of a family member is an ongoing process. The one thing we all know is that life is filled with the unexpected. The plan made must be reviewed every few years to be sure it still reflects everyone's needs -- not just the needs of the adult child with a disability. The needs and circumstances of siblings and other family members who may be called upon to play a role as advocate, caregiver, guardian, trustee or in some other meaningful support role must be reviewed as their life situations may have changed since "the plan" was first put into place.

My advice to families when developing a life care plan for the family member needing life-long care is to "hope for the best, but prepare for the worst." Parents will often say, "I'm not worried because I know my daughter will take her brother in and care for him." They may assume this without ever discussing it with their typical child. Perhaps they have shared their expectations with their typical child, but the typical child does not express his or her concern about making a lifetime commitment for fear of angering or upsetting the parent(s). Relying on adult siblings to fill-in as caregivers is often not realistic nor is it often in the best interest of the adult who may desire independence from his or her family, but may need help in gaining independence. It is important for adult children to be honest with their parents about what they are prepared to do for their sibling. Even for those families whose adult child prefers to live with a sibling, and the typical sibling is willing to assume responsibility for life-time care, parents need to plan for an alternate living arrangement.

Situations change and as a result a life care plan may need to be adjusted. In one family, it was decided that the daughter with an intellectual disability was to live with her younger sibling. The sibling and her husband and three children were all in agreement that the best place for "Julie" was to live with them when the parents died or were not able to provide for her. Unfortunately, the younger sibling was diagnosed with breast cancer in her early 40s. Following her diagnosis and treatment, she felt her own future was uncertain and she was no longer able to commit to caring for her sister's life-long needs. "Julie" has since moved into a supported living program with two women with similar disabilities. She is still very close to her sister and visits often, but her sister no longer has to worry about what will happen to "Julie" if her cancer returns. "Julie's" parents changed their estate plan to provide her share of the inheritance be distributed to a special needs trust, which will provide funds for supplemental needs and a higher quality care in her state-funded program.

In another family, two of the siblings agreed to share in the responsibility of caring for their adult brother with Down syndrome. "Brian" was a young man with a wonderful sense of humor and ability to self-care for all of his personal needs. Shortly after his parents died, he developed Alzheimer's disease at the early age of 50 and regressed very quickly to the point that he needed help with bathing, toileting, and other personal hygiene. It soon became difficult for the two siblings to care for him and he was eventually placed in a nursing home. Fortunately "Brian's" parents had provided for him with a special needs trust, which meant his inheritance did not have to be spent down on nursing home care. These two cases illustrate the need to always plan for the worst in case the unexpected occurs.


Considerations in Planning

In talking with my clients about aging, theirs and their child's, I recommend that they begin a discussion with their children. Where possible, the discussion should include the child with life-long planning needs. Self-advocates have a saying, "Nothing about me without me." How can parents plan for their child's future without gaining input from their child as to what his or her preferences are? Parents need to ask their children and other family members for their advice and wishes regarding future roles and responsibilities. A plan made in the absence of input from all of the key players is doomed to failure.

Parents need to meet with an attorney who is well-versed in special needs planning to draft the legal documents one will need in the future. Finding such an attorney is difficult. Families may want to contact the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (www.NAELA.org, 703/942-5711) or the Academy of Special Needs Planners (www.specialneedsplanners.com, 866/296-5509) for a list of attorneys who concentrate in special needs law in their area. An attorney who is a member of one or both of these two professional organizations will be familiar with special needs planning. Parents may also want to meet with a financial planner who can advise them on how to best fund the special needs trust. A financial planner can also assist parents in changing the beneficiary designations on non-probate assets such as IRAs, retirement funds, and life insurance policies so that the share for the family member with life-long disabilities is directed to a special needs trust.

Legal documents should, at a minimum, include the following:

In addition to the above documents, it is helpful for a parent of a child who is non-verbal or unable to communicate his or her wishes due to disabilities, to write a letter of direction. The letter of direction is an informal document that provides future caregivers and significant others with important information that provides continuity for the subject of the letter of direction. A letter of direction should be reviewed no less than once per year to be sure it adequately reflects the current needs and wishes. A typical letter of direction will include important information such as:

A letter of direction (also known as a letter of intent) also enables parents to memorialize their hopes, dreams and wishes for their child. This last section often provides guidance for the persons who assume the caregiving role or who are trustees of a special needs trust. An excellent resource with more information about letters of intent is the MetLife Center for Special Needs Planning at www.metlife.com/specialneeds.

It is also wise to leave written information regarding your financial assets, Social Security numbers, and other confidential matters in a place of safe keeping so that assets are not lost when you die. Often times, pension benefits, insurance policies, and other assets are not claimed because the parent did not inform their future executor or successor trustee of the existence of these assets.


Conclusion

Making sure their financial documents are in order and that their adult child is receiving all the benefits to which he or she is entitled, applying to the relevant social service agencies for life-time supports, working with agencies and family members to develop a plan for future care and supports, and memorializing the family's wishes in a current letter of direction will enable parents and persons with long-term disabilities to sleep better at night. A parent who has completed the above steps has the peace of mind of knowing they have done what they could for their son or daughter with a life-long disability.

Jennifer, by the way, moved into a shared living arrangement with a woman who is a teacher's aid in the public school. This woman enables Jen to live independently and for Jen, this is a terrific arrangement. My husband and I purchased a home in our neighborhood where Jen and her housemate live. Jen receives a Section 8 voucher for rent and funding under a Title XIX Medicaid waiver program which provides the supports and services she needs to live independent of her parents. Oh, and yes, I do sleep a lot better these days.


Theresa M. Varnet is an attorney with Spain, Spain & Varnet P.C., Chicago, and serves "of counsel" with the firm of Fletcher, Tilton & Whipple, P.C. in Worcester, Massachusetts. She may be reached at 312/220-9112 or at tvarnet@ssvlegal.com.

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Retrieved from the Web site of the Institute on Community Integration, University of Minnesota (http://ici.umn.edu/products/impact/231). Citation: Heller, T., Stafford, P., Davis, L.A., Sedlezky, L., & Gaylord, V. (Eds.). (Winter 2010). Impact: Feature Issue on Aging and People with Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities, 23(1). [Minneapolis: University of Minnesota, Institute on Community Integration].
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