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New Ways of Thinking About Parents with Intellectual Disabilities

by Bernadette Irwin

Parenting as a right for individuals with intellectual disabilities is a relatively new concept. In the last 40 years, there has been a paradigm shift in attitudes and practices toward individuals with intellectual disabilities who desire to be parents. Today, the most significant aspect of the national conversation about adults with intellectual disabilities who are or desire to be parents is that self-advocates, advocates, court personnel, policymakers, researchers, Guardians ad Litem and concerned members of the community are actually having that conversation about such a right. Several historical events have brought us to this new place.

One of those events was the convening of a special task force of The President's Committee on Mental Retardation (now known as The President's Committee for People with Intellectual Disabilities) in February 1999. This study group brought together 75 national experts, including adults with intellectual disabilities, to examine the consequences of society's failure to adequately support individuals with mild intellectual disabilities who were living marginal lives. This task force examined the lives of young adults with intellectual disabilities with respect to areas of everyday life and made recommendations to the President. Among the areas examined was the right to parent. The results of these discussions were presented in the document The Forgotten Generation – 1999 Report to the President (President's Committee on Mental Retardation, 1999). The recommendations included the following regarding the right to parent for individuals with mild intellectual disabilities (p. 81):

The report also stated, "People with mild cognitive limitations can be caring, concerned and competent parents if the appropriate supports and service are in place" (p. 81). It also said, "People with mild cognitive limitations have the right to have intimate relationships, to get married and to have children and have a full family life" (p. 82).

At the June 2010 annual conference of the American Association on Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities (AAIDD), the first meeting of the Parents with Developmental Disabilities/Intellectual Disabilities Task Force was held. The first discussion item in the minutes of the task force was "Everyone has the right to be in a relationship and have children." The recommendations of this newly-formed task force were surprisingly similar to those in The Forgotten Generation. Their recommendations included the following (AAIDD Parents with Developmental Disabilities/Intellectual Disabilities Task Force, 2010):

It is also significant that the United Nations is addressing parenting by individuals with disabilities as a "right" in a treaty that is currently under development in the Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities (United Nations, 2007). The United States is participating in the development of this document and when the U.S. signs this treaty, it will be obligated under international law to take "effective action" to eliminate discrimination, and to render "appropriate assistance" to persons with disabilities, including parents with intellectual and other developmental disabilities under Article 23. This Article states that signators "shall take effective and appropriate measures to eliminate discrimination against persons with disabilities in all matters relating to marriage, family, parenthood and relationships."

An additional milestone in the paradigm shift regarding parents with intellectual disabilities occurred as the result of a two-day planning retreat in 2009 in which 12 individuals from Canada and several U.S. states came together to develop a strategic plan to formally address the needs of parents with intellectual disabilities. This meeting resulted in the founding of The Association for Successful Parenting: Enhancing the Lives of Families When Parents Have Learning Difficulties (TASP). During the retreat, the participants developed TASP's Mission Statement (The Association for Successful Parenting, 2009):

We are dedicated to enhancing the well-being of at-risk parents with learning difficulties and their children. This primarily includes parents who may be identified as persons with intellectual disabilities or borderline intellectual functioning.

It also created the following Guiding Principles of TASP:

TASP has also identified the following as the practices it uses in its work:

Advocacy for the rights of individuals with intellectual disabilities with regard to parenting appears to have reached a critical mass. Local, state, national, and international organizations and agencies are addressing the needs and challenges of parents with intellectual disabilities. Public and private health care, education, housing, welfare, vocational, mental health and other social services, child and adult protective services, and the juvenile and adult court systems are beginning to recognize the need for coordinated, comprehensive and sustained services for these parents and their children. So, in 2010, as we are in the midst of a paradigm shift regarding parents with intellectual disabilities, where can people go to learn more about the emerging practice of supporting parents with intellectual disabilities? Here are some suggestions:

There are many opportunities for top-down (social policy) and for bottom-up (grass-roots/community) action and conversation to enhance the lives of families when a parent has intellectual disabilities. I encourage you to explore the field, and keep the action and conversations moving forward.



AAIDD Parents with Developmental Disabilities/Intellectual Disabilities Task Force (June, 2010). Meeting minutes and recommendations. Unpublished.

President's Committee on Mental Retardation (1999). The forgotten generation: 1999 report to the President. Washington DC: President's Committee on Mental Retardation, Administration for Children and Families, U. S. Department of Health and Human Services. Retrieved 7/22/10 from

The Association for Successful Parenting (2009). Mission, principles, how we do it. Retrieved 7/22/10 from

United Nations (2007). Convention on the rights of persons with disabilities. New York: United Nations Enable. Retrieved 7/22/10 from


Bernadette Irwin is Co-President of The Association for Successful Parenting, and Assistant Department Director with Family Support Services at The Kennedy Krieger Institute, Baltimore. She may be reached at 410/298-2645 or



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